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To date or not to date in the office, that is the question. On Dating Episode “Office romances and dating advice.” Andrea Syrtash: Now there are a number of people who will tell you that it is a big don't to date in the office. If it does not work out it is going to be totally awkward. Office mates will get involved, and you'll have to see the person every day. And then you'll meet people who say go for an office romance; it is so hard to meet people that the office is a great place to make connections. I thought it would be fun to have a little date debate. Since there are a number of issues and dating that are not black and white. Today's date debate is office romance do or don't. Which side are you on? I am Andrea Syrtash, and this is on dating. Would you date someone who you work with? Man on street: Yeah I think so, yeah. If she is cool. Man on street: I would not, not where I work. It is just asking for trouble. Man on street: It is not something that I would do. But I think that love is more important than work. Woman on street: Dating someone you work with makes going to work on a lot more fun. Man on street: It is just a big no; anyone with common sense would not do it. Woman on street: Probably yes, I mean it is the easy way in the city to meet people. Andrea Syrtash: We are joined today by Krista thinks it is a great thing today in the office. And Matt: who thinks it is a huge mistake. So Krista is one of those people that thinks the office is a great place to make connections. Krista: I do, I think it is a fantastic place. I mean you spend so much time in the office; you really get to know your coworkers so well. You get to see how they react to things, and you really just get a sense of who they are. So why wouldn't you, it is so much better than going out to a bar. Or just being set up, it is a fantastic place to meet people. Andrea Syrtash: Fantastic place and I like you are thinking, but Matt you feel differently. So what are your thoughts on that? Matt: Just the exact same thing that she said. You spend so much time there that is exactly the reason why you do not want to essentially, contaminate the place that you spend the bulk of your life at. Big mistake, do not date in the office. Andrea Syrtash: Krista do you want to respond to the contamination? Krista: Well I think that by getting to know your coworker you can really see how they react to things. So you will know if they're going to be mature if there is a breakup, I think you get a sense of how they will react. I do not think that it is contaminating the office in any way, if you guys are both adults and can act maturely. I think you would be OK. Andrea Syrtash: So Matt, do you think that people can stay adult and mature about this if it does not work out. I would say that people can be adult and mature when relationships go bad, but you should not count on it. And that is why you should always think worst-case scenario. And that is why you should not date in the office. Andrea Syrtash: Have you had a bad experience? What has led you to this place? Tell us about that. Matt: Well did have a bad experience. I dated someone super cool in my office, it did not work out, we broke up and that just pretty much, it was like a nuclear reactor meltdown in the office. You did not want to go there anymore. Andrea Syrtash: Did everybody get involved? Matt: Not everybody but they're definitely were, people took sides in that kind of made things weird. Krista: So Krista what would you say about that? When people take sides and... Krista: I think that you should probably be discreet when dating in the office. I do not think you need to involve all of your office mates. I mean that just sounds like you are adding your own drama. I think that you can be mature. And be quiet about your relationship and if it ends you can act respectfully. Andrea Syrtash: Have you had a personal experience on the good side of dating in office? Krista: absolutely, I have met to long-term relationships from the workplace. They were fantastic and we did not have any problems. And one of my best friends married her husband who she met at work. So I think that it is just a really good way to get a sense of who you are getting into a relationship with. Andrea Syrtash: good points on both sides. Krista thanks for sharing your perspective, which is a really nice healthy one I think. And Matt thanks for sharing yours, which can be probably a very realistic one on another level. So thank you very much for coming in. Krista: thank you. Andrea Syrtash: so whether or not you think dating in the office is a good idea. I do have some dos and don'ts to share with you so that you are smart about it. 1. Don't blab to the whole office the night you first hook up. Confide in your friends in the real world. 2. Figure out if it is a fun role in the hay, or if you see long-term potential. If it is fun sex, it might not be worth the risk. But if it is looking like a future with your officemate it may be worth exploring. 3. If it is explicitly stated in your contract office romance is a no, no, ask yourself is it worth losing your job over your crush? Maybe. So what do you think? Weigh in at OnNetworks.com. And remember even a bad date makes a great story so get out there and have fun. Thanks for watching on dating, I am Andrea Syrtash see you next time.